When a funeral service for a loved one is approaching, many parents struggle with the decision about whether or not to take their children. The best way to decide is to talk to your child and find out his or her preferences. Many children would prefer to be involved in funeral services rather than left out of them.
Watch this video for tips on attending a funeral service with your child. If your child wishes to go, talk to him or her about what to expect and look for ways for him or her to be involved. For instance, your child may wish to draw pictures or may want to sit by the guest book at the funeral home.
At Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary, we are committed to helping families build personalized memorials to their lost loved ones. In your time of need, contact us at (619) 701-6473 to find out more about funeral planning in San Diego.
Cremation is a respectful alternative to burial. It’s commonly thought that cremation limits a family’s options for funeral arrangements. In truth, choosing cremation instead of a traditional burial actually broadens the possibilities with the funeral arrangements. One path your family may choose is direct cremation.
Defining Direct Cremation
Cremation is the process of rendering a body into its basic components. The resulting remains may be referred to as cremated remains or ashes. A family may hold a visitation and funeral service prior to the cremation, but this is certainly not mandatory. When the decedent is cremated first, before any sort of ceremony, it is referred to as a direct cremation. Direct cremations do not include a viewing of the body, although they may include a service held after the cremation.
Understanding the Reasons for Choosing It
The reasons behind funeral arrangements are always personal, but one common consideration is the travel arrangements of the mourners. When a loved one dies, family members may come from near and far to mourn their loss. It’s often difficult for those who live far away to quickly make travel arrangements, particularly when religious custom or cultural tradition dictates that the body must be cremated within a certain time period after death. Another consideration is cost. The expense of direct cremation is typically lower because there is no need to purchase a casket for the visitation, prepare the body, or transport the body to the cemetery. In other cases, the decedent may have specified the preference for direct cremation in his or her pre-need arrangements.
Considering the Memorial Options
Direct cremation does not exclude the possibility of a thoughtful memorial. Families may hold a funeral or memorial service at any time after the cremation. They may choose to inter the cremated remains at a columbarium or memorial bench. Alternatively, cremated remains may be respectfully scattered, made into cremation jewelry, or even shot into space. There are many memorial options to suit the personality of every decedent.
For at-need arrangements and funeral pre-planning services in San Diego, families have long turned to Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary. Our cremation ceremonies can be personalized to suit the unique needs of your family and to reflect the spirit of your loved one. Call us at (619) 701-6473 and let us know how we can help you.
Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary provides thoughtful funeral arrangements to honor the lives of those who have passed on. When planning your loved one’s funeral service, you may wish to include elements of our Signature Services℠ to reflect the personality of the decedent. Many families have opted for our Flight Home® Ceremony, which is a beautiful addition that lends symbolic meaning. Per your request, our funeral home can arrange the release of doves or butterflies. We can also arrange a musical tribute to your loved one. Request a harpist, string trio, or bagpipe player.
Some of our Signature Services℠ are designed to serve as lasting memorials for future generations. Our Memorial Candles are created with select flowers from the floral tributes. We can also provide a DVD memorial tribute and a framed memory portrait for your family.
To discuss our Signature Services ℠ or other funeral arrangements, families near San Diego can contact us at (619) 701-6473. Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary extends our sincere condolences for your family’s loss.
The powerful feelings of grief are traditionally associated with the time after a loved one has died. Anticipatory grief is arguably less well-known and, as a result, many people experiencing it fail to seek the grief support they need from a mental health counselor or funeral home. Anticipatory grief can encompass any of the usual emotions of grief, but it occurs before a loved one has died. It is commonly experienced after a loved one has been diagnosed with a terminal illness. In some cases, it can last for years.
Accept Your Limitations
Because grief is widely understood to develop after a loss, you might feel as though you’re losing self-control when you experience feelings of grief prior to the loss. Some people report feeling as though they’re going slightly insane. You might feel utterly exhausted, unable to think clearly, and excessively forgetful. You might verbally lash out at others for no good reason or you might feel so overwhelmed that you are tempted to lock yourself in a dark room and cry. These are all normal reactions. In truth, there is no “abnormal” reaction to an anticipated loss. To cope with anticipatory grief, it is essential to acknowledge that you’re going through challenging times. Accept your limitations, scale down your daily responsibilities whenever possible, and give yourself permission to truly feel your emotions.
When a loved one is dying, it’s only natural to want to spend more time with him or her. But during your time away from your ailing loved one, try to distract yourself from reality. Dwelling on the anticipated loss and considering what life might be like without your loved one will not likely calm your mind. Give yourself some time each day to enjoy any activity that distracts you. Read an engrossing book, do yoga poses while listening to meditation music, watch a movie, or play a musical instrument. Distracting yourself before going to bed is always a good idea, since anticipatory grief can easily lead to insomnia.
Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary is a funeral home in San Diego that is pleased to offer grief support services to area families. To discuss a loved one’s funeral arrangements, call (619) 701-6473. Our funeral directors can also help you with funeral pre-planning.
In the wake of a person’s death, it’s customary to send the family a condolence or sympathy card. This is especially important if you are unable to go to the funeral home for the visitation or to the memorial park for the burial. It’s often difficult to know what to write in a condolence card, as there are no words that can take away the pain of loss. But you can get a few ideas by watching this brief video.
This professional writer recommends avoiding language that is overly poetic. Instead, write in an accessible manner to express your genuine sympathy for the family. You may wish to share a special memory that you have of the decedent.
Visit the online Sympathy Store at Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary to select a thoughtful condolence gift or floral arrangement. If you need assistance with planning a funeral and live near San Diego, call our full-service funeral home at (619) 701-6473.