Funeral services are difficult, even if you weren’t close to the decedent. Many people are uncomfortable with the thought of death, and being unsure of the proper etiquette doesn’t help matters. Before you go to the funeral home, take a few minutes to brush up on the dos and don’ts of funeral etiquette.
Taking Your Cellphone
Taking a cell phone and leaving it on is one of the biggest mistakes a person can make at a funeral service. It’s easy to forget that you have your cellphone in your pocket or purse, especially if you’re accustomed to carrying it around with you. Before you exit your car, double-check your pockets or purse to make sure you don’t bring your phone in with you.
Avoiding the Family
Your presence at a visitation, funeral service at a house of worship, or graveside service demonstrates your support for the family. But it’s best not to leave without speaking with the mourners, even if you do not know them well. At a visitation, join the receiving line when you first arrive. You’ll wait in line to pay your respects at the casket before going down the receiving line of family members. Shake hands with each mourner and offer a few words of condolence. Then, you may take a seat if you wish to stay. When you attend a funeral service at a house of worship, you’ll likely shake hands and speak briefly with the family upon entering. Arrive early to ensure you do not miss this opportunity.
It isn’t customary to take photographs at a funeral. In fact, it’s almost never appropriate. The only reason why you might breach this rule of etiquette is if the family has specifically asked you to do so. If this is the case, use your discretion. Being respectful of the mourners takes precedence over recording the occasion.
Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary has been honored to serve families near San Diego with respectful funeral services since 1907. We invite you to walk the grounds of our memorial park and visit our funeral home when you’re ready to make the arrangements. We’re available at (619) 701-6473 to address all of your concerns.
Arriving at the funeral home properly dressed is a sign of respect for the decedent and the mourners. Before getting dressed for the funeral, take a minute to consider whether certain attire is dictated by cultural or religious traditions. If not, then dress in the same formal, understated manner you would use for a job interview.
For more helpful hints, watch this featured video. It recommends a jacket and tie for men, and a pantsuit, skirt suit, or conservative dress for ladies. Choose close-toe shoes, and wear minimal makeup and jewelry.
When it’s time to say your final goodbyes at a respectful funeral service near San Diego, Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary is here for your family. Call our funeral home at (619) 701-6473 to begin making funeral arrangements.
Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary is pleased to announce the opening of our new cremation garden, Mirror Lake. Mirror Lake is situated at the center of our cemetery and offers an array of options for families seeking both cremation options and traditional burial.
Mirror Lake features beautiful amenities, including a running stream, footbridge, and fountain. Private family estates are available for families who prefer cremation and those who are choosing traditional burial. For those seeking individual cremation options, we offer granite niches, pedestals, benches, and many other features that allow you to design a personalized memorial for your loved one.
To learn more about Mirror Lake, contact Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary today. We’re pleased to offer a variety of options to accommodate every preference and budget. Be sure to also ask about the rest of the services at our funeral home in San Diego, including funeral pre-planning and grief counseling. Contact us today by calling (619) 701-6473.
Whether you are planning a Jewish funeral service or are attending one for the first time, you may have some questions about the traditions you may encounter. Read on to take a closer look at Jewish funeral services and the other traditional parts of saying goodbye to a loved one of the Jewish faith.
Jewish Funeral Service Timing
Within the Jewish faith, funerals are supposed to occur as soon as possible after a death. Although having the funeral within a day is preferable, this tenet can be relaxed if people must travel a long distance for the funeral or if there are other issues that could delay the timing of a funeral. From the moment of death, the body of the person who has died cannot be left alone and must always be accompanied by a shomer, or guardian. The funeral home can often help families find an appropriate shomer as well as a rabbi, if necessary. The funeral home can also help facilitate the funeral planning process so that it can happen as quickly as necessary for the family.
Viewings and Funeral Services
In most cases, there is no viewing or wake for Jewish funerals, though families may participate in a rite called keriah, during which an item of clothing or piece of black ribbon is torn and then worn throughout the funeral and mourning period. The funeral service itself may be held at a synagogue, at a funeral home, or at the graveside. Views on burial and cremation vary in the Jewish community, so interment can take either form.
After the funeral, a period of mourning called shiva begins. Shiva translates to seven, and it is a seven-day period in which close family members of the deceased gather together each day for mourning and prayer. The family does not work during this time, and they will receive guests who wish to offer condolences. After shiva, shloshim begins for the next 30 days. Family members return to work but still pray together daily. The end of shloshim marks the end of the official mourning period, except in the case of the death of a parent, in which case it lasts for a year.
Greenwood Memorial Park & Mortuary is experienced in planning Jewish funeral ceremonies and is here to help your family after a loved one passes away. To get more information about funeral ceremonies in San Diego, call (619) 701-6473.